Bearing The Truth Of Your Actions
While you’ve been complaining about how you can’t get your ex back you have also been making sure he or she hears the worst about themselves straight from your lips. You talk about them behind their backs and you look at them as though the ice in your blood could reach out and stab them. And yet you want to get ex back, you say.
Breaking up with someone we truly love is a good example of this action. We have no evidence that they might leave us, but at least if we break up with them the pain won’t be as bad. And so we toss away something wonderful in exchange for our own self induced pain.
Weight gain is another way we tend to protect ourselves. We look into fat loss solutions that don’t involve giving up the candy, the salty snacks, and the unhealthy meal patterns we have going on. This is often because we aren’t really motivated to lose the weight.
We douse ourselves in beauty cosmetics yet we show the world our ugliest side. We think we are protecting ourselves, keeping everyone at bay. Yet we are the ones who go home at night and are lonely. We don’t give ourselves a chance to be loved because we don’t want the inevitable pain if it doesn’t work out. What about the chance for love if it does work out?
We are a people trying to protect ourselves in any way that we possibly can. We don’t want to become a victim of anyone’s and so we victimize ourselves instead. We try to get better jobs, more money, and better spouses by reminding ourselves over and over again that we are not worthwhile people.
It would be wonderful if we could all put down our weapons of choice and start to realize that there are other factors in play here. We do cause our own pain to make sure that, at the very least, we get to be in control of it. We don’t ask for help and we never look back.
The daily function of our mind is to help us protect ourselves. And yet if we dig a little deeper and we try a little harder, we might just find that we are perfectly able to handle what life throws at us without bearing our own pain first. We might even be able to look past the make up and give someone a real smile.
