‘Owning’ Your Feelings Is A Step Toward Self Confidence
Do you find yourself wanting to build your confidence? One of the simplest ways to achieving that goal is to make an effort to start getting in contact with your feelings.
It could be that that will sound, but many persons really have to build confidence in their own emotions before they can begin having better feelings about their own selves. It might be you have spent your whole life disowning and hiding your feelings. If that’s is the case, then you will have some unlearning you should be prepared to do.
Do you remember when you were a kid, having fun on the playground, when an older kid ran up and knocked you off the slide? Even if nothing like this ever happened to you, picture what it might have felt like if it had. How would you (or did you) feel about something like that? I’d bet that your emotions at that particular moment were sharp and clear — and you probably had no problem in letting others know them, whether through yelling or sobbing, or perhaps running after the mean kid and trying to wallop him back.
Now, I don’t suggest lashing out physically at other people, but short of that, what is wrong about acknowledging your true feelings in every situation, the mad and sad ones as well as the sunny and cheerful ones?
Unfortunately, adults in modern culture have been taught to not only sit on their emotional reactions, but to think that some emotions bad. Some individuals have learned this lesson so completely that they no longer even understand what they are feeling from moment to moment. Getting in touch with your emotions is crucial if you wish to boost your confidence.
When you truly accept your emotions, you acknowledge them — all of them. From this minute forward, grant yourself the freedom to experience every feeling that wells up inside. Don’t suppress it!
When you find yourself viewing a sad or depressing TV program, let yourself cry. If you happen to see some happening that strikes you as uproariously funny, let yourself have a good deep laugh, even if you are in public and others look at you oddly. Scream about the inconsiderate person that just swerved in front of you on the expressway, and keep yelling until the angry feeling or naturally extinguishes itself.
Experiencing your emotions, without condemnation, will free your real self simply as a result of squarely facing what is occurring for you at any given moment. And freeing that real self that you have kept hidden even from yourself all this time is certain to increase your self confidence.
