There is a deep connection between the relationships we are in and our level of self-esteem. Perhaps they are connected in such a direct way, that you choose people who are not optimal partners for you, or they choose you and you don’t know better….and the unhappiness of being with a wrong person reinforces the lowering of your self-esteem.
Being with a passive aggressive person is a tough situation, because you are exposed to his endless, relentless attack every day….He has this need to get even of past humiliations by putting you down. So, if there was a case where you needed exactly the treatment that could destroy the little self-confidence you have built, here it is. Don’t look around anymore, because you have found your perfect partner!
At the beginning, this comment looks too harsh. People with PA behavior are nice, normal, somehow even charming….up until they get to know your weaknesses and then they have a support for their negative comments. And those comments are delivered in a funny way! Can you believe this? they are so smart that they can make cruel jokes about the aspects that hurt the most deep inside you, and with such with that all his friends will have a good laugh!
It really hurts, right? when you discover that this “joke” isn’t funny any longer….and that you crave for respect, and tender loving care, not hidden aggressions. Now, you have again in front of you the task to recover and build your self-esteem….
There must be some tactics to defend yourself, you must be thinking? Of course there are…and you need to look for them…Empowerment is a long term job, but is exactly what you need now.
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